Stop Negotiating With Yourself

New Year. New resolutions. New drive to become your best you … that invariably gets derailed by “those” days.

You know the ones. Maybe you’re slammed with work. Or the kids woke you up at 2 a.m., Or your good friend’s pet ran away, and you’re bummed out. Or the wind is blowing from the northeast.

Whatever it is, you’re just not feeling it that day. Zero energy. Zero motivation. Zero willpower. One of “those” days. And few things kill New Year’s resolutions worse than a day like that.

Well, we all have those days. Even Jen Dorie, the 2021 Miss Bikini Olympia Champion. So how does she combat “those” days to stay on track with her resolutions and goals?

“I set non-negotiables,” says the IFBB bikini pro.

What she means is, she sets goals and resolutions she hopes to achieve like everyone else but to achieve them, set creates a list of non-negotiables to get there.

“Once I’ve set something as being non-negotiable, it’s part of my routine,” says Jen.

“It’s like brushing my teeth. I don’t have to be motivated to do it. I just do it. Because if you have to contemplate if you want to do it, chances are you won’t.”

Now, everyone’s non-negotiables will be different. Heck, they may even be flexible, and that’s ok, according to Jen.

For instance, a non-negotiable for Jen is working out at least five days a week. More is great, but she has to hit five, and it doesn’t matter which days. Yes, it’s great to have a set routine, but life doesn’t always work that way. Maybe her Tuesday is packed, and she honestly can’t find time to get to the gym. No big deal, she moves that workout to Wednesday. And if she skips Sunday and Monday, then there’s no thinking about working out every day the rest of the week. It’s happening.

The same thing would go for water intake in a day. Yes, it’d be great to drink gradually throughout the day, but say she forgot in the morning, then she makes sure to drink extra in the afternoon to make sure she hits her mark.

“Think of it as a work deadline,” says Jen. “If your boss says to get something done without a deadline, you may get it done today, or you may forget and do it in a week. Or you may forget entirely. But if your boss says you have to do that same thing today, there’s no contemplating if you want to do it. You don’t need motivation.

“It’s non-negotiable. You have to get it done, and so you do.”